Relative Relativity

[Mark D]

"Are you happy?"  "Do I make you happy?"  "What could I do to make you happier?"

How many times I have asked or been asked those questions.  And the almighty truth is that I choose whether or not I am going to be happy or unhappy.  No matter the person or the situation, it is inevitably and unequiviocally up to me whether or not I am going to experience happiness that day.  Even with those to whom I am most closely related...

I realize that sometimes I set myself up to be hurt, usually because I expect too much out of the person or persons I deem unworthy of my flattery and commendability.  Love is not to be graded on a scale that coincides with how I think daily activities, routines, and expectations are to be carried out and fulfilled.  Love is what it is, plain and simple.  I am not the standard by which others are to pattern their lives.  I have enough to fill my plate with just keeping my side of the street clean; I have no time or energy to take care of anyone else's when I have put my best effort into my own.

My happiness depends on my mood and my determination to work my program on that particular day.  If I want to be out of sorts, that's my lot I have cast, but I cannot lay the blame on anyone else.  I can spend the entire day in a sulk if I choose -- might not be the healthiest idea, but I have the freedom to choose that and suffer whatever consequences it may drag along along with it.  Or I can decide to put all the crap that is out of my control into the hands of my HP and do my best to enjoy the next 24 hours living according to His will for me.  My ahppiness is relative...  The happiness of my relatives is relative...  Your happiness is relative...  All God's children have some relativity...